The House is Done!

Marriage and Family

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“Let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33

Is Your House Done Yet…?

I’m not sure how many times this question has been asked of my wife and I in the last month, but it is a lot!

Every time someone asks me this question, it makes me think of the laundry list of things I still have to do…here are some things I still need to do: Counter top installation, appliance installation, electrical outlet replacement, trim installation, trim painting, door painting, wall paint touch-up, lower bathroom vanity replacement, kitchen light replacement (x2), caulking in two bathrooms, painting kitchen cabinet doors, resurface two bathroom countertops, build façade wall in basement, and this doesn’t even include the outside…!

So, when I get asked the question, “is your house done yet?”, inside I’m thinking, “I’m not sure when my house will ever be done”. Although, we are living in the house and we LOVE IT! I guess it depends on your perspective. On the one hand, there are so many things we need to do. On the other hand, we are living life while intentionally addressing the things that need work.

It seems to me that this is kinda like marriage. Do we ever get to the point that we are done working on our marriage? No! Just as work on our house will continue until we move or die; work on our marriage needs to continue or we might find our spouse moving or dying.


Even in the midst of working on things, we need to find contentment in the here and now. This doesn’t mean everything is perfect. Life isn’t perfect. Relationships are not perfect. But keeping the right perspective during challenge and growth will give you success in your marriage. The right perspective is to be content with the here and now while growing for the future.

When I ask people about their relationship with God, a common response is, “It could always be better.” Even though it’s true that our relationship with God and our spouse could always be better. We can come to a place of, “It’s really good and I am continuing to work on it.”

I look forward to being able to say, “The House is Done!”, but that simply means, the main functions of the house are operated as they should and we can have company over regularly. We are getting close!

Good Marriage is a result of continual work while being content in the here and now!

Have a Great Week!

Ephesians 5:22-33

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